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I know, sometimes it’s really hard to feel grateful amidst all that’s going on in your life, in the world, with your family or with the economy. Maybe there aren’t too many “bright sides” to notice right now.
Are you someone who keeps getting a case of the “shoulds” ?
Here’s the truth. You don’t have to feel anything you don’t want to. And definitely don’t write a gratitude list if you don’t feel like it. If you don’t feel grateful, don’t push it.
It is valuable however, to understand why and when you do feel grateful and why and when you don’t… all worth unpacking, in my opinion. (Been there so many times…)
This still doesn’t mean you have to or should feel appreciation for anything!
But I would highly recommend that you accept yourself, no matter what. Being mad at yourself for not feeling a certain way is useless, even counter-productive. It won’t change how you feel, it just adds a layer of guilt.
Try this EFT/Tapping sequence below to validate and accept yourself.
And if you want to explore the topic of gratitude further, I have an audio coaching program called Project Gratitude to honor the feelings you do have… no matter what. I have reduced the price by half again for the next few days.
Side of Hand: Even though I feel guilty because I don’t feel grateful, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway… Even though I feel such pressure to be grateful when I don’t, I accept where I am in this moment… Even though I’m tired of everyone telling me I “should” feel grateful when I don’t, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.
Eyebrow: I don’t feel grateful
Side of Eye: I feel guilty that I don’t feel grateful
Under Eye: But I don’t feel grateful
Under Nose: It’s hard to feel grateful when I’m so upset
Chin: It’s hard to feel grateful when I have so many challenges
Collarbone: All I feel is suffering
Under Arm: I feel selfish and ungrateful
Head: I feel guilty feeling ungrateful
Take a deep breath…
Then tap on all the face and body points again:
Eyebrow: Shouldn’t I feel more grateful?
Side of Eye: I hate feeling guilty
Under Eye: I’m irritated that I feel so guilty
Under Nose: I don’t want to “have to” feel anything
Chin: I feel such pressure to feel grateful
Collarbone: I feel such pressure
Under Arm: I just don’t feel it
Head: And I’m tired of faking it
Take another deep breath…
Now try tapping on these words for a more accepting attitude. Again, the point is to validate and honor where you are and what you are feeling, not to force yourself to feel something or manufacture an emotion.
Eyebrow: What if I could accept myself for not feeling grateful
Side of Eye: I might try and accept myself
Under Eye: But I still feel pressure
Under Nose: I don’t feel grateful and that’s ok
Chin: I accept who I am and how I feel
Collarbone: I accept that I don’t feel grateful
Under Arm: I honor my true emotions
Head: I honor where I am emotionally
Thanks for reading and listening!