You may have processed a lot of your grief from losing loved ones. You may think it’s “over” or behind you. You may even think you’ve “done that” already.
But what can happen is that a new loss – of a loved one, a pet, a job, a relationship – can trigger some of the remnants of grief that are still lurking somewhere in your energy system.
As many of you already know, our EFT community lost a very special soul this month, Dr. Pat Carrington. Pat turned 95 last July. Pat was a dear friend, a beloved colleague, and instrumental in deepening and expanding the EFT field through her well-loved Choices Method. Her contributions will be greatly missed.
Pat as a loving human being will also be greatly missed! So before we do some tapping on grief, let me just tell you a few things about Pat that have nothing to do with her impressive bio as an author, professor, and EFT Master.
Pat was always gentle and always kind. (I know you’re not supposed to say “always” about anything.) But this was my experience of Pat as a friend and colleague. Pat never said anything mean about another human being. Pat always looked on the bright side, (and that was sometimes a difficult climb.) She was very wise and thoughtful, long before her old age, and had a uniquely positive perspective on life.
I couldn’t honestly say those things about many other people, but I can say them about Pat. Even in her private moments, when we were on the phone, out to lunch, or discussing a complicated episode from a conference, Pat was always gentle and kind. And she had the ability to move forward. She got over things very quickly!
So I invite you to take this opportunity, whether you knew Pat or not, to tap on any remaining grief that might be hiding in your system.
Side of Hand: Even though I still have some leftover grief hiding in my energy system, I deeply and completely love and accept myself… Even though I still feel old losses very deeply, I accept who I am and how I feel… Even though I’m sometimes afraid to feel my grief, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.
Eyebrow: I feel leftover grief in my system
Side of Eye: I feel a lot of sorrow and loss
Under Eye: I still feel a lot of loss in my heart
Nose: I’m afraid to feel my grief
Chin: My old grief has been re-triggered
Collarbone: I’m afraid to stir up my old grief
Under Arm: But I feel sad
Head: I’ve been afraid to “go there”
Repeat these positive follow-up phrases while you continue tapping on the identified points.
Eyebrow: I can allow myself to feel the grief
Side of Eye: I choose to honor the loss
Under Eye: I choose to honor my sorrow
Nose: I appreciate these deep feelings
Chin: It’s time for me to feel these emotions
Collarbone: I’m feeling safer about feeling my grief
Under Arm: I look forward to feeling more at peace
Head: I choose to appreciate my grief and loss
Farewell to Pat Carrington, a truly loving, kind, and gentle person.