When events happen in our families and in our lives, it can be difficult to openly Embrace Both Sides. Last month my family had one death and one birth on the same day. Hello and goodbye within the same 24 hour period… and neither one was expected to happen that week. I flew to the baby shower which was held a few days before the funeral.

Both events were incredibly rich and deeply emotional. I cried walking into the hospital room to see the new baby, and I cried walking into the funeral service. It really struck me how, since both events happened on the same day, it would have been so easy to focus on the new baby and spend less time grieving my loss, or get engulfed by the grief and not give enough time to the baby. But it was so important to do both, and not let either life cycle event eclipse the feelings connected to the other one.

And each event represented both sides of the emotional scale as well. There is incredible joy about the new baby, and some fear around her future, her caretakers, her life and how it will unfold. And at the funeral, it was a joyful celebration of life, in the midst of real grief and saying our final goodbye.

And of course there are more than just good and bad feelings. And in the world of EFT, we deeply and completely accept ALL feelings, none of them are truly considered “bad” or “good.” Embrace them all, and watch what happens.

So because of the events that happened in my life that reminded me to Embrace Both Sides, I am reminding you to be open and vulnerable enough to Embrace Both Sides – both sides of each event, both sides of your own emotions.

And this reminder could be applied to anything that happens. If you get a summer cold, Embrace Both Sides. If you have an argument with a friend, express and own both sides, the positive and the negative. A client of mine was grieving that her daughter was leaving for college, and she finally realized that she had been ignoring how much joy there was about her graduation and about what an amazing young woman she had become.

It’s way too easy to get distracted and not really feel the depth of what’s happening in our lives. There are so many things we could do to ignore our feelings! Thanks to EFT, we can use tapping to help us navigate our challenging emotions, and be more “available” for our joyful emotions.

So take a deep breath and Embrace Both Sides of everything that shows up in your life. A job loss? Probably some positive and negative there… Moving homes? Likely some highs and lows… A personal or professional “rejection”? – don’t forget to see the upside of what has happened.

Our thoughts, feelings and behaviors carry energy…

Our vibration matters!

So be ready and willing to Embrace Both Sides, and abundance will be available to you. There are no closed doors, no forbidden emotions, no fears too big to handle. When you are open emotionally, the Universe will support you in new and surprising ways by opening up new channels of abundance.

Below you will find EFT/Tapping setup phrases to help you be inspired to release your blocks to being able to attract what you want into your life.

When you change your vibration,
you will change your life.

Go ahead, raise your vibration
by being inspired to
Embrace Both Sides!



While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these first phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation). Then proceed to the additional phrases while tapping on the indicated points. (If you are new to EFT, please view information and directions.)

The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:

“Even though I don’t want to embrace the negative, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”

“Even though I only want to focus on joy, I deeply love and accept myself.”

“Even though I’m afraid to embrace anything hurtful, sad or negative, I accept and appreciate all my feelings.”

I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. You may repeat the positive round more than once if you wish.

***Below are the phrases that focus on the problem***

Eyebrow: “I don’t want to Embrace Both Sides.”

Side of Eye: “I only want to focus on joy.”

Under Eye: “I’m afriad to face/embrace anything negative…”

Nose: “I don’t want to embrace anything upsetting.”

Chin: “I’m afraid of my more challenging emotions.”

Collarbone: “I’m afraid to focus on the painful emotions.”

Under Arm: “I want to avoid the emotional pain.”

Head: “I hope I can handle both sides.”

***Now for the positive focus on the solution***

Eyebrow: “I want to want to Embrace Both Sides.”

Side of Eye: “I’m not sure I can handle feeling everything.”

Under Eye: “It’s probably a good idea… but am I able to?”

Nose: “I want to choose to Embrace Both Sides.”

Chin: “I want to feel inspired to Embrace Both Sides.

Collarbone: “I feel inspired to become more available.”

Under Arm: “I’m looking forward to feeling it all.”

Head: “I choose to Embrace Both Sides right now.”


Access more positive vibrations with the Law of Attraction by repeating the following phrases (while tapping or not):

Thank You, Universe, for reminding me to Embrace Both Sides… I feel more aligned with abundance already!

Thank You, Universe, for inspiring me to Embrace Both Sides… I am looking forward to uplifting results!

Thank You, Universe, for making it so easy for me to Embrace Both Sides… I feel the vibrational shift and power already!

Keep tapping, and enjoy using the Law of Attraction to bring more of what you want into your life.

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Carol Look, EFT Master, Speaker, Author, Coach, and Creator of “The Yes Code.”

August 10, 2015

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