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In all my success and abundance programs, this theme keeps surfacing. Clients repeatedly admit: “I’m afraid to be seen, being visible feels unsafe.”
Hi, I’m Carol Look, author speaker, coach and creator of THE YES CODE™.
The key is to find out why you are afraid to be seen, then you can clear the conflict and move forward quite easily.
- Why are you afraid to be seen?
- What happened the last time you stood out?
- How is it serving you to stay hidden?
- How does playing small benefit you?
Why would you care about these answers? Because if you are afraid to be visible, you will inevitably sabotage or punish yourself every time you take a step forward. This is exhausting and expensive! If you feel afraid to be visible, you will automatically block your success and block any steps you would normally take to follow through in both your personal and professional life.
To put it more succinctly, if you feel afraid that being visible is somehow unsafe, you will move heaven and earth to stay small.
Take a moment to complete these sentences:
- Being small is safer because …
- Staying hidden is better because …
- Being quiet protects me from …
Once you have the answers to “why” you want to stay invisible, you can proceed to some very targeted and specific Tapping sequences to neutralize your fear and start to move forward.
Measure your fear of being visible on the 0-10 point scale, and jot down your starting number.
Consider these Tapping sequences:
Side of Hand: Even though I’m afraid to be visible, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway… Even though I’m afraid to be seen, something negative might happen, I accept who I am and how I feel… Even though standing out feels scary to me, I accept all of my feelings anyway.
Eyebrow: I’m afraid to be visible
Side of Eye: Being visible feels dangerous to me
Under Eye: I don’t want to stand out
Under Nose: I don’t want to be seen
Chin: I might get into trouble
Collarbone: I’m afraid to be visible
Under Arm: It doesn’t feel safe to me
Head: No wonder I stay hidden
Take a deep breath, and measure your fear again on the 0-10 point scale, note your progress, or whether you need to change the wording or not.
Side of the Hand: Even though I’m still afraid to be visible, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway… Even though I’m afraid of feeling exposed, I accept who I am and how I feel now.
Eyebrow: What if I get into trouble?
Side of Eye: I’m worried about being visible
Under Eye: It usually gets me too much attention
Under Nose: I don’t want to stand out
Chin: I’m afraid to stand out
Collarbone: I don’t want to be a target
Under Arm: I’d rather play small
Head: It feels safer to play small
Take a deep breath, measure your fear again on the 0-10 point scale, and then complete this more positive round below.
Eyebrow: I can feel safe now
Side of Eye: They might not like it, but I’m ok
Under Eye: I’m allowed to shine if I want
Under Nose: I appreciate my capacity for success
Chin: I appreciate all my talents
Collarbone: I choose to feel safer as I succeed more and more
Under Arm: I appreciate who I am
Head: I appreciate how I’m changing