Just think… what if you could just “be with” all of your thoughts, feelings, conflicts, challenges, and regrets. This is the cornerstone of the mindfulness movement and my daily stillness practice. Just “being with” all of it.
What if you could tolerate, or emotionally “be with” all those daily challenges that bother you – just being and noticing rather than resisting or rushing to change it?
The surprise for me was that being with all my thoughts and feelings was such a relief! Instead of feeling threatened or more afraid, there was no more pushing, no more resisting, no more aggravation or urgency.
Sure, you’ll still have emotions around these thought, feelings and conflicts that show up. But what creates the resistance isn’t the outside event or person you want to fight, but your trying to convince yourself the situation isn’t true, and trying to push against it.
I know it’s difficult, and some of you are saying… good luck with that. But have you tried it? Just being with your feelings, even asking yourself if you are able to just “be with” them? It reduces so much tension and stress in your body and mind. There’s a reason the mindfulness movement has touched every segment of our society.
Again, what a relief to just be…
That’s why EFT is still my favorite technique for what life throws my way. The process requires that you identify your feelings and just be with them. Then the setup statement “I deeply and completely love and accept myself (anyway)” invites and allows you to just be with whatever you have chosen to focus on for that sequence.
Clients tell me they have trouble just being with their feelings because they:
- Fear it means they’re “ok” with an intolerable conflict
- Fear they will be seen as weak if they don’t fight back
- Fear they will “lose” if they don’t voice their opposing opinion
What’s your biggest block to just “being with” the feelings and conflicts? They’re always showing up, that’s one thing we can’t control.
Let’s try EFT/tapping on this challenge.
Karate chop point: Even though I’m afraid to stop fighting and just “be with” what shows up for me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I’m afraid of what it might look like to others, I accept who I am and how I feel. Even though I’m afraid of letting go of the resistance, I accept who I am and how I feel.
Eyebrow: I’m not ok with what shows up
Side of Eye: I’m afraid to be with a feeling I don’t like
Under Eye: It’s hard to be with something I want to reject
Nose: I’m afraid of being too passive
Chin: I feel resistant to being with conflict
Collarbone: I’m afraid it means I have “lost”
Under Arm: I don’t want to feel weak
Head: I’m uncomfortable with just being
Repeat these follow-up phrases while you continue tapping on the points.
Eyebrow: I have been resistant to just being with what is
Side of Eye: I want to try to be with what shows up
Under Eye: What if I could just be with it for a while
Nose: What if I could stop the fight
Chin: It’s all just energy anyway
Collarbone: I’m open to being with my thoughts and feelings
Under Arm: I appreciate all of my thoughts and feelings
Head: I’m ready to try a new way
Just be with it… make it an experiment, see what unfolds, and as always, let me know!