I know, I know, you’ve said a million times that you want to make a significant change in your life – ending a bad habit, starting a good habit, getting better at listening, improving your health, reducing your clutter problem, handling money more responsibly – but then it never happens. Why not?

Resistance blocks your energy, and admitting and allowing it gets the energy flow going again. Resistance causes a kind of chronic stress, while allowing gives you space to breath and just be with your feelings, no matter how scary or threatening they feel to you.

Here’s the truth. You don’t have to feel anything you don’t want to. If you don’t feel grateful, don’t push it. It is valuable however, to understand why and when you do feel grateful and why and when you don’t… all worth unpacking.

Where do you invest your time? Where do you spend your energy? More importantly, if you could change that, where do you want to invest your time and energy?

Listen to a companion tapping: (Download MP3) “I feel so helpless…” is what I have heard time and time again in the past 2 weeks around the devastating racism we have all seen and witnessed, anchored by the story of George Floyd. “I feel so helpless…” What I know from being a psychotherapist for several …

Start with stillness. Start with stillness before you make decisions, before you pick up the telephone, before you hit send, before you start a conversation. Start with stillness before you express your outrage, before you engage in a protest, before you try to contribute to societal change.